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After the Raptors won the NBA championship back in June, Jacob was already making plans to find a way to get back to another Raptors' game.  Well, he was probably already doing that last November after our first regular season game, but once the season was over it was clear this was going to be an annual goal for us, though made a little harder now that we don't have a direct NBA connection in the family like we did previously, before my brother's wife left her position with the league last winter.

Craig and Jacob went to a preseason game last year, so when this year's preseason schedule was released, I noticed that their sole home game was on the Sunday before Columbus Day (a.k.a. Canadian Thanksgiving), which meant the kids would be off school the next day.  It was also a slightly earlier start time, which meant we could probably pull off a much cheaper no-hotel trip--go up in the morning and come back late at night.  Well, since this year's game was against an actual NBA team (not an international team like last year), tickets were a bit more than expected...but certainly still less than a regular season game.  We went back and forth for weeks talking about it, and up until early last week we were still undecided.  One night I happened to go to bed early because of my cold, and when I woke up the next morning, Craig informed me he found us acceptable seats and bought the tickets.  Ok, then...I guess we're going to Toronto!  The only downside of the trip was that it meant we'd miss our annual free night at Strong Museum through the company I have an investment with, which was a bit of a bummer, but hopefully Jacob's brain study will do theirs again this year, because those free nights are so much fun!  But going to Toronto wasn't too shabby either!

But first, I was off work on Friday with the kids, and managed to do more work on decluttering the house.  I finally tackled the giant pile of donations sitting in our spare room and took six bags to the Salvation Army and a bag plus two other toys over to the kids' old daycare.  That was mostly the leftovers of what the consignment store wouldn't buy--two talking Elmos, the sweet but slightly possessed Fisher-Price talking Laugh and Learn puppy, a few infant toys, and some puzzles, plus a well-used toy vacuum and an activity table that was missing an accessory.  It felt so good to get rid of that stuff!  Of course, that night I started pulling out electronics for an e-cycle event at work this week--two computers and monitors, a baby monitor, my old boom box (sob), plus possibly my old Fisher-Price record player and the TV I bought when I moved out on my own.  So much obsolete technology!  And I also started pulling out the baby linens to soak and wash so I can donate those to an organization I work with at my job.  Incidentally, I thought I was done with that when I folded that batch of laundry on Monday...until I remembered that there was another box of hand-me-downs I received--most of which never got used--that I could also add to the donations.  So those are now in the soak-and-wash process, too.  But one more thing out of the house eventually!  On Saturday I hooked up one of the old computers to make sure there was nothing of value left on it, and after a trip to Wegmans for me and some haircuts for the boys, we were off to Buffalo to cut our morning trip in half.

Sunday morning we were out of the house by about 9am, because we had a secret mission to undertake before the game!  First stop: Hamilton!

It's amazing what you can see from St. Catharines, just over the border.  Toronto is all the way across the lake, but on a clear day, you can see it perfectly!

We didn't tell Jacob where we were going because we honestly weren't sure what to expect, but I had noticed two days earlier that there was going to be an event featuring the Larry O'Brien Championship Trophy (the trophy that the Raptors won) in Hamilton on Sunday.  It was right on our way and seemed like the perfect way to spend part of the day!  When we got to the arena in Hamilton we were a little underwhelmed that the entire event was outside, particularly since it was barely 50 degrees outside and rather breezy.  The whole area was still in the shade, too, so it was a little extra chilly.  Thankfully the line wasn't super long (although, of course, it was shorter by the time we left), and it was manageable...particularly considering the end result was a few minutes up close and personal with the trophy!

While we waited, there was a shooting game for everyone to play.  Of course Jacob was all over that, and after a little while he hit the target threshold to win himself a t-shirt!  He actually only ended up a few points away from the adult target!

The whole event was sponsored by a milk company, so we did get some chocolate milk to enjoy, as well.  We waited patiently in line, as each group was able to walk into the trailer and spend a couple minutes with the trophy.

You can see the trophy in there, just left of center

After maybe a half hour at most, it was our turn! 

Pretty cool!  (It's no Stanley Cup, but it's not too shabby!)

And we all even managed to smile for the picture!

Don't be surprised if you see this one again...Christmas Card Photo ✔

In true Jacob fashion, I don't think he was blown away by the experience, but I do think he thought it was pretty cool!

We stopped at IKEA in Etobicoke next to ponder a new entertainment center (no for now, but I'm not having much luck finding something better) and grab a few snacks.  Then it was on to Toronto, where we visited both the Raptors' team store and the Sport Chek store across the street.  Apparently the Raptors' online team store is oddly lackluster compared to other teams, so Jacob was eager to browse.  He actually didn't get much in the end, although Carter did end up with a super cool shirt with a video game-style pixelated Pascal Siakam on it.

We then took a walk past the Rogers Centre and CN Tower to Wahlburger's for a late lunch/early dinner.  On the way, I made sure to stop at the SoHo Hotel where I missed the Chihuly last time.  It was a little hard to appreciate since it was over my head and encased in glass that reflected the bright sunlight around me, but it's always cool to see a new Chihuly!

After our meal we stopped into Wayne Gretzky's restaurant across the street, for one final glance before it closes next year and is replaced with condos.  I loved going there when I was a teenager, and one of our first dates ended up there, when we were first dating and went to Toronto with co-workers for a Blue Jays game (but hung out separately the night before) and went to watch sports at the bar after our first-ever dinner at Marché.  Sad, but if there's anything that city teaches me, it's that things are always changing and new things sprout up from the death of something else all the time.  Constant evolution and change there.

We then headed back to the arena, which itself had received a bit of a facelift since we were there in May.

The arena entrance also received a new wrap celebrating the Maple Leafs' season.  The clock is actually taken from Toronto's old City Hall, which we stayed near a couple years back.  I noticed the gargoyles flanking the bottom (near the top of the doors, sort of cut off in the picture) which helped me identify it.

Inside was wrapped as well, with the symbol of the Raptors' 25th anniversary season...

It's always nice to be back in the arena, especially when it's not the Knighthawks losing to the Toronto Rock, which was how I usually spent time there years ago!  After sitting on a corner last time, we were on the end this time.  I don't mind the ends for hockey, but it turns out it wasn't as good for basketball.  Still, they were good seats.

I had to force a selfie out of Carter while we hung out in the seats pregame...but at least he's smiling!

Couldn't help but snap some pics of one of my faves from the playoff run, Fred VanVleet, as he warmed up.

I also got a glimpse of superfan Nav Bhatia, who has never missed a game.  He was the grand marshal of the championship parade.  He has a cool backstory and his dedication is just amazing.

They did a cool video with the intros to celebrate the championship, and it was highlighted with in-arena fireworks and flames.

The game itself ended up being a bit disappointing.  Not only did the Raptors lose pretty badly, but none of the big name players played.  The opposing Chicago Bulls played their starters, but the Raptors played none...hence the loss.

I could only see Fred VanVleet, Norman Powell, and Pascal Siakam sitting on the bench.  Boo.

There was another celebrity at the game, though--Canadian tennis star Bianca Andreescu, who was sitting in the front row a section over from us.

The Raptor was up to his usual tricks...

It was fun to see basketball again, but like I said, the angle wasn't awesome (maybe just because of the net) and the lack of star players was a bit of a bummer.

After the game, we headed back down to the store to return a ball the boys bought in case Jacob had a chance to get autographs.  He got a couple last year but security seemed stronger this year, so it was hard to get down to the railing from where we were.  Oh, well.  While in the store, Carter found this foam finger.  How tough does it make him look?

On the way back to the car, we couldn't resist this shot.  Let's hope it's some awesome foreshadowing, right?

We ended up having an extra long trip out of the city because the Gardiner Expressway was closed for the weekend.  In the States, the day before Thanksgiving is the busiest travel day of the year.  In Canada, apparently they shut down the busiest roadway in town.  Go figure.

It was a very late night, as we got home somewhere just before 1am.  Luckily with Jacob off I was able to sleep in a bit more than usual, but it wasn't an easy day, to say the least!  On the bright side, I was greeted with these beautiful fall colors in my parking lot at work.

We have a moderately busy week, but another fun weekend is ahead for me!  Concert time and reliving college is the best, plus there will be some bonus family time, too!  Can't wait!

Whirlwind Weekend!

After a few weekends on the quieter side, I knew I had a busy one coming up.  All week I tried to prepare, be it pulling out cold weather clothes, starting my packing extra early, or even just taking zinc when it appeared I had a cold brewing, so I could hopefully keep it at bay at least until the important stuff was done.  Jacob finished off his last twice-per-week basketball games (all losses in this season after winning the championship in the last one...boo), and I had my bible study, and before we knew it, Friday had arrived.  It was time for another Meliora Weekend at work!

The big difference this year is that I was just working on Friday.  Saturday is usually a big day with a full work schedule, but this year I'd be off to my cousin's wedding!  As a result, I booked up Friday as much as I could.  It was a cool, cloudy day when I got on campus at 9am, and it was still relatively quiet.  Definitely felt like the calm before the storm (but thankfully not a literal one, after a bunch of rain the prior couple days, we needed it dry!)...

I took a seat at my first spot, the Annual Giving table in the student union.  It's always a lovely view from there!

After a couple hours at the table, I did a four hour shift across the way at registration.  Despite some technological challenges, it was a relatively fun shift, just chatting with colleagues and checking in registrants.  After four hours on my feet (minus a quick lunch) I was getting pretty tired, but there was no rest for the weary as I had a 4+ hour golf cart shift ahead.  It wouldn't have been so bad except that it was rather cold out.  It was cloudy and in the upper 40s, and despite some layers, it was still rather bone-chilling.  I did what I could to stay warm and busy, though there were definitely some lulls in takers for my services.  I did take some very nice people around the campus--to their parked cars, to their favorite spots on campus, to registration--and I tried to stay occupied in the meantime by taking a few pictures...

The "Meliora" letters up by the library are a favorite photo op.  It's been a couple years since I've been up close and personal with them, so this would have to do.

I'm such a big fan of Oktoberfest, so this new beer garden for young alumni was one of my favorite spots.  The faux wood floors and walls were cool, and the German themed decor was spot on!

The ferris wheel is another favorite spot.  I enjoyed my ride last year, but this was as close as I got this time.

The sunset shaped up to be quite lovely.

I took a detour to try to get a better view of it, and these clouds over the Interfaith Chapel were about the best I could get.

I took a break about this time to visit the restroom, warm up, and grab a warm beverage, and when I came out, I saw this:

Doesn't get much prettier than that to finish off the day!

I continued to drive around until about 7:30, when it got too dark for my golf cart to be safe.  I didn't realize until about 6:30 that it didn't have headlights at all, and by then it seemed silly to take the time to trade it in, since I wouldn't be out much past dark anyway.  I was very relieved to finish up, get warm, grab some dinner, and head home to finish packing.  We had a fun weekend ahead!

We had to be up rather early the next morning, as we had to be on the road by 9:30 or so and had a couple errands to do prior to that.  By some miracle, we actually got out of town on time!  We snagged some lunch along the way, and then dropped the kids off at Craig's parents en route to our final destination, Allegany State Park!

I knew when my cousin got engaged last winter that it would probably not be a traditional wedding.  Brian is an outdoorsman, and his sweet fiancée Laura seemed to take to it pretty quickly, as well.  Our extended family usually does a fall camping trip each year, and I guess this year's sort of morphed into the wedding weekend.  Of course, with my work schedule, we couldn't get there until Saturday, which was just as well since Friday was so cold--and the night was even colder!  My parents' cabin (more on that in a bit) didn't have built-in heat, so they had to make do with layers and a space heater they brought with them.  We arrived in the early afternoon and stopped at their cabin so I could unload my stuff.  Craig would be leaving that night because he had to pick up the kids and head back to Rochester for Jacob's basketball tryouts the next morning.  I was going to stay and enjoy the rest of the wedding, then work my way back to town via my parents and my cousin Lori.  The cabin was, shall we say, rustic.  However, it was close to the bathrooms, and the view outside of it was lovely.

After finally deciding on an outfit that fit the occasion and the weather--which was a much more pleasant sunny and 60--we were off to the wedding at the amphitheater down the road.  I liked this one tree that sort of stuck out from those around it at the back of the site.

The ceremony was very simple--one maid of honor, one best man, a flower "gram" (Laura's spunky grandma handed out flowers up the aisle), and a doggie ring bearer, which I half expected given how much they love their sweet girl Mollie!  Oh, and our Uncle Jeff, who is Brian's best camping and hiking buddy, officiated the ceremony!  Keep in mind that less than four months ago he was stuck in a hospital with a broken femur, shattered elbow, and broken ribs after a bike accident.  He's made an amazing recovery, and he did a great job!

What a lovely day it was...just warm enough, and such a pretty venue.  It was a very sweet ceremony.

She's wearing a scarf that said, "My humans are getting married!"  She was such a good girl--not a peep out of her!

Laura looked stunning, and Brian wore his late father's hat.  Casual, yes, but it was very "them".

Man and wife!

As for me, it was nice to get some kid-free time with this guy...

After a quick stop at the general store for Craig to get some sinus medicine (which led to the discovery of seemingly the only place in the park with Wi-Fi, since cell coverage is nil), we headed to the reception.  What a gorgeous spot it was, right along the lake.  I was sort of obsessed with this little tree that had super red leaves in contrast to being mostly green.

The venue was also pretty perfect.  Besides the amazing view outside, the views inside were lovely, as well.

Perfect blend of elegant and rustic

And yes, a shelf full of cupcakes (and side racks of cookies and mini pies) counts as a lovely view!

The outside view was so pretty.  I just never got tired of it.

Even the back of the venue was pretty.

The reception was lovely.  The happy couple really made everyone else smile.

The details were adorable.  The father-daughter dance featured her father and two uncles who had major roles in raising her, which sent most of the room into tears.  In the photo below, the G over the fireplace had their last name and wedding date on it.  The backpacks flanking the fireplace had "Just Married" signs on them.  Their head table was on the rustic barrel.  And the fire was helpful in keeping the room warm!

The lake views were lovely, even as the sun went down.

It was a fabulous night full of lots of shenanigans!  Crazy contests, crazy dancing, but lots of love all around!

After the reception there was a campfire at one of the cabins (a very nice one, actually--it had heat, a bathroom, and two bedrooms).  We headed back to my parents' cabin just before 11.  Of course, once before the campfire and once after, I saw a mouse run along the wall and the window sill.  Ewwwww.  Between that, and being super full and having to pee constantly (seriously, it was annoying, and the bathroom was a minute walk up the path), I didn't have a very good night's sleep.  Luckily the space heater kept the cabin warm enough (to the point that I sometimes woke up too warm in my many layers), but the bed wasn't very comfortable.  It was rustic, for sure, but it was fine.

It had a wood stove...which of course we weren't outdoorsy enough to use!

It at least had a fridge and range, plus four beds, but that was literally about it.

On the bright side, the outdoor space was lovely.  It was a cool and damp but pleasant morning, so I threw on some boots and walked out into the stream.

I'm going to guess the leaves weren't quite where the newlyweds would have liked when they planned the wedding, but there were still some pretty colors...

Even looking back toward our cabin as we left, the colors made for a pretty sight...

Some color was visible, too, as we drove out of the park.

This is a view of the reception site from across the lake.

All in all, it was a great weekend.  Tiring, mind you, but great.  I spent part of the day Sunday at my parents' watching the Bills game (yay, they're 4-1!) and finally got back to Rochester around dinner time with Lori and Mollie the dog, who is staying with Lori while Brian and Laura are honeymooning.  I think the rough night of sleep was my undoing, however, as the cold I'd been successfully fighting off all week finally started to hit me later on Sunday.  Oh, well.  It avoided the events I needed it to avoid, so it could have been far worse!  Now we're halfway through the week already and looking ahead to the long holiday weekend.  I think everyone is relieved to have a couple days off of school (and a day off of work for each of us).  We do have one great adventure coming, as well, so stay tuned!

An Open Letter to Dr. Y.

Dear Dr. Y.,

Thanks for seeing me the other day.  At least it was just a regular annual physical and not for some weird, random affliction like the unexplained bruising I had in May or a stubborn cough that lasts for weeks like I had a couple years back.  That said, I've come to know these physicals as my annual lecture, and I look forward to getting it over with and moving on.  It's not that I don't appreciate the effort, and I'm not trying to be one of those dismissive jerk patients, but sometimes I think "good enough" has to be good enough.

I feel like most doctors would be relatively happy to have a patient like me.  I'm a pretty healthy weight, I have a very good blood pressure (almost always around 100/60-something), and my only chronic health conditions are pretty mild, all things considered.  I exercise relatively regularly, my diet could always be better but it's definitely not a dumpster fire of crap, and by all accounts my immune system does what it is supposed to--this week's blossoming cold aside.  I feel like I'd be an easy in-and-out for most doctors, a simple checkmark and on to the next.  But for you, I might as well be an obese smoker with a Big Mac in my hand.  I don't know if you think I'm truly unhealthy, or if you think I'm lying about my lifestyle, or if you know I'm average and just desperately want me to be even better.  I truly don't know.  I know you have very high standards for your life, and you are very invested in them.  I know you are 110% sold on certain diet habits because they work in your life, and you truly believe most people can benefit from them.  I appreciate that.  But just because they work for you, that doesn't mean they will work for me.

There are two sides to my frustration--one, just because it seems plausible and could work doesn't mean that it feels worth it to upend my entire life for an issue that only bugs me a little.  Two, I have three other people I need to take care of, and my issues currently do not seem concerning enough to upend their lives, as well.  You've always been a proponent of a vegetarian (to nearly vegan) lifestyle.  I know you don't appreciate meat, and my first memory of you will always be that you told me how happy you were to finally get your kids "off cheese sticks".  Considering they were one of the few seemingly nutritional things my kids ate at that time, I knew we might be in for a bit of a wild ride.

The last time I was there, you suggested that going dairy-free would help with both my reflux and my lost smell, and yet today you strongly suggested a gluten-free diet was the answer to getting off my reflux meds.  Understandable, I guess, since both meds now have concerning issues--long-term disease probability for one, and a cancer-containing substance in the other.  When I asked if a probiotic may help instead, you shot that down pretty quickly.  Even if it wasn't your top choice, I would have liked some legitimate advice, rather than a complete shutdown.  A hesitant, "Well, it's worth a try...let's try this one," would have been much more helpful, even if you don't actually think the probability is high.  But it does work for some people, studies have shown, so giving me a little guidance for an attempt (no matter how futile) would have been preferred.  Honestly, I'm going to try it anyway.  I could also try chiropractic care and/or acupuncture, which I've been meaning to try for my smell anyway, because at this point anything is worth a shot.  I don't have the usual triggers for reflux, so either it's genetic and I'm just screwed, or there's something funky going on.

And yes, maybe that something funky would be cured by a gluten-free diet, but that is a HUGE step.  You think it's not huge because I already feed my child gluten-free...but no, it's still huge.  My breakfast, lunch, and snacks would have to be overhauled, and I'd have to give up so many things I love and be burdened with planning on-the-go food for the rest of my life.  It's overwhelming.  And with the other things you'd like me to cut down on (namely dairy, meat, and carbs), I'd be hard-pressed to come up with a reasonable plan for myself.  I'd be a lot more on board with the idea if any of my bloodwork indicated I was anywhere on my way to having Celiac Disease.  But as of a few years ago when it was done--with the same severity of symptoms--I was nowhere even close.  Yes, it's possible I could have some sort of intolerance because bloodwork doesn't necessarily show that, but honestly, if it's not Celiac, I'm going to try everything else I can think of before I overhaul my life like that.  My reflux symptoms are merely mildly annoying, whereas a full gluten-free diet would be devastating to me.  I think I'll stick with annoying for now.

And when it comes to those other things you'd prefer I'd cut out, I already struggle enough with feeding the rest of my family as it is.  It's nearly impossible for me to get through a week without having a night where I struggle to figure out dinner.  Going gluten-free for Jacob was hard enough, and Craig's more recent lactose intolerance has thrown yet another wrench into it, because I feel guilty making anything too cheesy or creamy for fear the Lactaid won't do its job.  So when you suggest cutting down meat and carbs, my brain pretty much shuts down.  My kids are already thin enough--they would waste away to nothing if they were on a plant-based diet.  No one likes the same vegetables in my house.  Broccoli is the only one we can almost agree on.  We can sort of do salads, but not without a fight.  Corn and potatoes don't count because they're too starchy, but those only get 3 of the 4 of us anyway.  Cauliflower, peppers, and cucumbers are also 3 of 4.  Green beans, peas, and zucchini only have two fans.  I'm the only one who likes carrots.  I do not, however, like beans, so that makes the non-meat, non-dairy protein situation a little sketchy.  And don't even get me started on tofu.

Honestly, it already costs a bunch to feed us, and if removing meat was an option, I guess that would make up for all the produce...organic, of course.  But it's not, so pardon me for being a little less eager.  I don't make a doctor's salary, and neither does my husband, so consider yourself lucky that this works for you.  Also on the practical side, I also will not make multiple meals, nor do I have the time to cook elaborate dinners or pack fancy lunches.  And even if I did, I'm not sure that's how I want to spend the precious little time I have.  Life is busy, kids are stressful, and most days it takes every last ounce of energy to keep my sanity.  Not for nothing, this stuff might put me over the edge.

Don't get me wrong, I trust you as a doctor and appreciate what you're trying to do.  I don't switch doctors because I'd rather have one that pushes me a bit and isn't just satisfied with the status quo.  But it would be nice to get a tiny little bit of recognition for the things I am doing well--mostly solid bloodwork, down five pounds, not shrinking yet, staying active enough and not plopping on the couch with a bag of chips or a candy bar.  Maybe if you started with that and then launched into how you'd like to see me do better, that might help.  Or maybe consider that there might be something else I could do before completely overhauling my diet for something that's currently a minor inconvenience.  Yes, I'd love to get off my medications, and yes, your method may work.  But might there be others that won't push me quite so far out of my comfort zone?  Is there anything else that might be worth trying that isn't quite as drastic?  I'd like to get rid of my reflux, sure, but it doesn't bother me nearly as much as a complete diet and life change.  I'm sorry.  I'm willing to give some other things a try, and if you're willing to consider them, I'd love to hear your opinion.  But until then, I'm going to give a few other things a try and hope I go back to next year's lecture with some good news.  Thanks for trying, though.

Sincerely,
Amy