Nine years ago today, Craig and I got married. It's hard to believe we're just one year shy of ten, because that seems like a really long time. We're not that old, are we? Nine sounds pretty substantial, particularly in light of some marriages we've seen that ended much sooner than that. We have a long way to go to match our parents' high standards--my parents are over 41 years, and we're celebrating Craig's parents' 40th this weekend--but we're well on our way.
Part of me feels like we were much different people when we got married. And most likely, we were. I was very young (not even 25) and Craig was 30. We'd only been together for two years, and Jacob was still five years into the future. Parenthood changes things a lot, because you have to work together in a way you never have before, and it challenges your very identity. Hobbies and interests take a hit because you're so busy taking care of a helpless little human, and suddenly you have moments where you're not sure who you are anymore. If you can get through that intact, you're got something special, no doubt.
Our wedding day was an amazing day. Gorgeous weather, no problems, surrounded by friends and family, and me wearing the most gorgeous dress I'll probably ever wear. Back then I wouldn't have changed a thing. Now I look back and there's probably a handful of things I'd do differently, but I know that at the time, it was nearly perfection in my eyes. Hindsight is 20/20 and in some cases I just didn't know any better, but still...it was an amazing day. It almost seems like another lifetime, though.
Since I've never done this before on this blog (at least, I don't think so!), here's a rundown of the day:
|Me and the girls--my two best friends from college, my sister-in-law, my cousin, my oldest friend, and Craig's cousin as our flower girl--she's in college now!|
|The boys on the church playground--Craig's roommate at the time, our co-worker, Craig's brother, my brother, and Craig's friend from college, along with Craig's cousin as our ring bearer. He's in high school now. We're officially old.|
|Me peeking around the corner at the church, waiting for my moment! I was nervous about the ceremony but totally at peace with the commitment I was about to make|
|One of my favorite pictures of the day...|
|Toasting at the head table...this is the picture I have at my desk. Oh, and I loved the flowers. So pretty.|
|Dancing...which we didn't do nearly enough of! Between visiting with people and whatever else, the night went too fast!|
|Gotta love Polish traditions! This one included a crazy hat and a song. Definitely a new one for my side of the family, but Craig's older relatives were old pros!|
Nine years later we spent our evening at a Japanese hibachi restaurant and used a Groupon to give Jacob his first hibachi experience. It was a bit of a risk, for many reasons. Taking Jacob out is always a risk, and this would be new food for him. We'd never been to the place before, and the reviews were iffy, generally because of the place itself, not really the food. But I love hibachi and the Groupon was a good chance to try it out for cheap. In the end the place was a little dated (I felt like we were in a weird, low-budget movie), but Jacob liked the show and even ate some food, and it wasn't a half bad night overall. It's a far cry from the biggest party ever with all the people we love, but hanging out with our little boy while he made our fellow diners and chef laugh...well, that was pretty priceless, too.
Happy Anniversary to Craig...and here's to many more!