Saturday, December 29, 2007

Timing is everything...

I've decided in going through this process that pregnancy is all about timing. From how you have to make a baby to choosing when to share the news, timing is everything. Throughout a pregnancy there are deadlines...or I guess more like targets...when to have the first ultrasound, when to test for problems, when to start seeing the doctor more frequently. Timing is extra important near the end of this process, with each extra day in the womb giving a baby a better chance at a healthy life...and yet too much time in the womb during delivery causes problems, hence emergency C-sections. It's all pretty mind-boggling. And I won't even get into the timing involved with creating a baby...to this day it amazes me that so many couples have trouble conceiving, yet thousands of women (or girls...hey Jamie Lynn Spears!) have the unfortunate luck of having sex at the precise moment that's going to change their lives forever.

So far the craziest thing for me has been the timing of sharing our news with people. As I mentioned previously, we initially didn't tell people because we were a little afraid of a miscarriage early on, and the thought of going back and telling people the bad news was horrifying. Now that more people know, even though we're technically coming out of the high-risk first trimester, that fear is still there. However, the further along things get, the harder it is to keep things under wraps. The first person we told was my cousin Lori, within the first week. She knew pretty much every step of the process, so I couldn't really lie to her! And having a confidante is always helpful. But beyond that, timing really turned a lot of things upside-down. While most people tell their parents very early, there were a couple issues that prevented that in our case. First and foremost was distance. Had we known how far along we were, we probably would have told our parents on thanksgiving. However, once we did know, we had a week in Florida and a busy week before Christmas that prevented us from telling them face-to-face...and really, shouldn't it be done face-to-face? We also didn't want them too worry. Now, they're parents, and of course they'll worry. I'm my father's daughter, after all! But with the trip and everything, it just seemed easier to keep everyone in the dark for a little longer. I had two people (Craig and Lori) lecturing me about avoiding the fun rides at Disney...that was enough :) So, as much as it killed us to keep quiet, I think it turned out ok in the end...it made Christmas extra special. And since the face-to-face thing seemed important, it just so happened that the rest of our families found out shortly after each set of parents. But judging by their eagerness for us to tell anyone, I'm not sure how they would have done with the secret long-term anyway! ;-)

It seems like we've had to tell people a bit out of order, though, which has seemed really odd. I mean, Craig told a few people at work before Christmas, but it was mainly to explain why he didn't want to go on an impromptu roadtrip. However, I haven't told my co-workers yet...hopefully next Wednesday, at least for my bosses. I told a couple friends fairly early on, but only because I knew it was the only time I'd see either of them in person for a while. But my two best friends from college don't know yet, and I'm torn about telling them. I'd really like to do it in person because the phone is just awkward, but it may be the end of January before I can do it, and that seems like a long time to keep a big secret. I'm the first of us three to go through this (the one just got engaged a day or two before I found out I was pregnant), so it's new territory. Ugh. My brain gets tired just thinking about it...so I think that's enough for today...

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